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How to Be the Ultimate Wedding Guest: Do’s and Don’ts

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Weddings are joyous occasions where couples share one of the most significant days of their lives with friends and family. If you’re lucky enough to be on the guest list, your role is important too! By being thoughtful and considerate, you can help make the day even more special.


Here are some essential tips to ensure you’re the kind of guest the couple will appreciate



RSVP on Time

When the invitation arrives, respond promptly. Couples rely on accurate headcounts for seating, catering, and overall planning. Sending your RSVP late or forgetting altogether can create unnecessary stress for the couple.

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Lauren Lee Photography

Follow the Dress Code

If the invitation specifies a dress code, stick to it. Whether it’s black tie, cocktail attire, or casual chic, adhering to the dress code shows respect for the couple’s vision for their day. And no matter what, avoid wearing white—that’s reserved for the bride.

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Chris Evans Photography

Show Up on Time (AKA 15 Minutes Early)

Punctuality is key. Aim to arrive at least 15 minutes early to allow for finding parking, grabbing a seat, and being settled before the ceremony begins. Walking in late disrupts the event and draws attention away from the couple.

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Chris Evans Photography

Don’t Ask for a Plus-One

Unless the invitation explicitly includes a plus-one, don’t request one. Couples often have to make tough decisions about their guest list due to budget or venue constraints. Respect their choices and enjoy the day solo if needed.

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Buy a Gift Off the Registry (or Give Cash)

The couple spent time carefully curating their registry to reflect their needs and tastes. Choosing something from their list ensures they’ll love your gift. If you’re unsure or prefer flexibility, cash is always a thoughtful and appreciated option.

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Don’t Move Your Assigned Seat

The seating arrangement is carefully planned, often to ensure smooth conversations and a balanced atmosphere. Stick to your assigned seat—it’s not just a suggestion!

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Anna Costa Photography

Respect Child-Free Weddings

If the invitation states the wedding is child-free, make childcare arrangements. Bringing your little ones despite the request can create awkward situations and disrupt the couple’s plans.

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Keep Your Phone Away During the Ceremony

This is one of the most sacred parts of the day. Unless you’ve been invited to snap photos, keep your phone tucked away and on silent. The couple likely hired a professional photographer—trust them to capture the moments.

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Judy Tran Photography

Avoid the Drunk Speech

A wedding is a celebration, but overindulging can lead to embarrassing moments. Enjoy the bar, but know your limits. No one wants their reception overshadowed by an impromptu drunken speech or other antics.

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Wild Whim Photography

Don’t Mention Problems or Ask Logistic Questions

The newlyweds have likely spent months planning every detail of their day. If you encounter any issues or have questions about logistics, direct them to a member of the wedding party or staff. Let the couple enjoy their day stress-free.

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Nikkels Photography

Don’t Make It About You

This day is all about the couple. Avoid drawing attention to yourself, whether it’s by making big announcements, dominating conversations, or causing disruptions. Focus on celebrating and supporting the newlyweds.

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James & Jess Photography

By following these guidelines, you’ll contribute to a seamless and joyful celebration. Remember, weddings are about celebrating the couple, not drawing attention to yourself. Your thoughtfulness and respect will be appreciated more than you know!




Written by Shayna Cogan

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